I’ve noticed different parenting styles where the child seems more of a nuisance than a blessing. We are not perfect in our parenting… Not by any means, but we recognize that BP is a person. A person with feelings, opinions, thoughts, and desires.
BP shouldn’t be told ‘go play, so we can talk’. Yes, she needs to play – how else will she develop? Or learn? Or grow? BUT not because I think she is in the way. BP is a person. I need to treat her with the same respect that I want to be treated with.
I need to include her when I can – which is almost all of the time. I need to respond to her needs. Hold her when she cries – even if I have no idea why she is crying.
To the parents who tell their child to go play, or let their child cry alone in a room, I ask: When does your child become a person? I’m not asking adult – I’m asking a person. A person who needs to have their needs/desires met and you deem worthy of responding to.
For me: my child became a person the moment she was conceived. I may fail as a parent at times, but BP is a person regardless of my shortcomings.